So guys (and girls), don’t think you can just ask for whatever you see on screen and stage when dating a sex worker. It does not go like that. Thanks to alt adult actress Andre Shakti, she went very insightful and deep by sharing her relationship with this guy named Sam. Throughout the article she also shares three main rules one needs to follow when dating a sex worker.
It was at The Crazy Russian where she danced for about six months. Everyone was super supportive and her college friends were visiting the club only to applaud her loudly whenever she’d hit the stage. Then, one night, her roommate brought a bunch of people who she never met before. And in this group there was Sam. Andre and Sam’s piercing blue eyes met when she was in an inverted pole trick and from then on she spend a lot of time with him. Their relationship lasted a mere of three months, but it wasn’t for the lack of sex or not much chemistry why they split.
It was due to Sam’s stripper fever. He was showing to Andre Shakti’s work unannounced, cheering and making her customers draw back. He told everyone how she’s earning money, his friends and even his parents, although she didn’t meet them yet at the time. Once in the bedroom, he even asked her to dance for him, pretending like they are in the strip club. All this was too much for Andre, making her uncomfortable with her personal life getting too close to her work life.
Sam broke all three rules one needs to follow when dating a sex worker. According to Shakti, these are the rules you need to glue to your brain, if you’d like to have a healthy relationship with a pornstar or any other adult worker:
1. “Don’t compromise their cash flow by driving away their business.”
2. “Never out them to other people without their consent.”
3. “Don’t expect them to eagerly perform activities they normally get paid to do for free.”
Andre Shakti says, many sex workers want to have their work and personal lives clearly separated. She adds, “While some strippers love putting platforms on and grinding into their partners’ crotches as foreplay, just as many would slap their boyfriend silly if he asked.”
The whole “Sam situation” was only the beginning for Andre. People constantly harassed her with questions about how much she earns, her childhood and wanting to be with her because they “knew” her due to watching her pornos.
After being in the adult entertainment industry for nearly a decade, Andre is happy to have her partners as her cheerleaders now. She continues, “These days, when my partners want to visit me at work, they ask first.” When it comes to their parents, they let Andre do the talking and when it comes to bedroom lap dances, “They always let me be the instigator.”
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